Original Article on Books for Kids from Parade: Read Now
Video Review on Christmas Gift Ideas: Watch Now
We are very proud to be listed in Parade Magazine’s Holiday Gift Guide -Books for Kids this year. There are always so many wonderful titles to look over. It is such a passion of mine that we keep reading out loud to kids, so to be included in an article in which the author is looking forward to reading our book snuggled up with her niece this holiday season makes me proud! I certainly think that Santa’s (Zany, Wacky, Just Not Right!) Night Before Christmas is a book worthy of an annual holiday tradition.
And the video gift guide by Velvet Giggles is a delight. Again, we are very proud to be included. If you’ve never seen a review by Renae, you are in for a treat. She has some great ideas and has a way of making me want all of them! Enjoy!
Oh- and in case you missed it, we are now available in Kindle format as well as a great interactive app. For more on the interactive version go to Interactive Touch Books. You can click on Santa turn his suit from purple to red, hear jets roar, sleighbells ring, snowmen turn upside down and so much more!
So you think you’re moving along and adapting to your new split-family living situation, but then wham, how will you handle the children and the holidays after divorce. You take your children to their Dad (Mom) on Tuesday and you’ll see them again on Saturday. It is a bumpy cycle and much to be learned, but you’re getting the hang of it.
Then what do you spy on your calendar as you turn the page? The next major holiday doesn’t fall on Tuesday? It doesn’t fall on Saturday, Sunday, or Monday either. You realize you are going to have to go dig out those divorce papers and see what year it is and if it’s odd or even and if you get to see your children or if you’ll be attending that holiday function without kids in tow. So what can you do to make split-family living better during the holidays?
- Have Fun! Remember that even though this is a transition time in your lives it is still the holiday season and it should be FUN! Read silly books together with your kids, like Santa’s (Zany, Wacky, Just Not Right!) Night Before Christmas. Watch old movies and Christmas specials. Bake cut out cookies. Go look at Christmas lights. Sing Christmas Carols. Play in the snow if you have it. Make snowflakes if you don’t. Do anything to lighten the mood. It is still supposed to be FUN!
- Communicate. Communication is key to everything, and the holidays are no exception. Talk to your kids and ex-spouse. Maybe the every other year thing is too confusing. Maybe your kids are feeling left out. They might even feel guilty that Mom or Dad is alone. See if you can work on a schedule that works better. Some families opt to split the holidays by time, so that a child is with one parent until 2:00 and the other for the remainder of the day. Some opt to split the holidays so that the kids know that every Thanksgiving they will be with Mom and her family for the entire day, but that every Easter or some other holiday they spend it with Dad and his family. That allows traditions to build and nobody has to stop right in the middle of the fun. A book like We’re Having A Tuesday will also help your kids communicate any feelings they may be having about missing out on one thing or another.
- Put your differences aside. Maybe for a day, an hour, but do whatever you can. If you can manage to go to a pumpkin patch and carve pumpkins great. If you can only handle opening gifts all together, so be it. If it means sharing a piece of holiday pie and some eggnog, great! Any amount of time you can spend all together will be the biggest gift you can possibly give to your kids. Remember you are doing it for them.
- Plan Ahead. Don’t be agreeing to the schedule the night before. Inevitably there will be a child eating back to back turkey if there is no plan.
- Be flexible and reasonable, and keep your word. If you plan to have your child home at 2:00 and it’s 2:15, don’t make a big fuss to your ex-spouse. Things have a way of taking a little longer than expected during the holidays. But don’t purposely ignore the agreed upon schedule. That only sets your child up to be caught in the middle of your frustrations.
- Agree on gift giving methods. Will you each be buying gifts separately or together? Will you coordinate so you don’t both give the same thing? Who will take the children shopping to purchase gifts for each of their parents? How will they be paid for? It is perfectly acceptable to teach your children the art of giving, even if it means you are buying a robe for your ex-wife.
- Establish new traditions. You can incorporate old ones if you wish, but it might be time to start some new ones. Maybe every holiday morning you will serve homemade cinnamon rolls. Maybe birthdays will now always be celebrated by waking up with balloons. It is good to incorporate new so that whatever might be missing from the old might not be as missed.
- Let the love shine. Allow your child to communicate with the missing parent. Maybe it will be a quick telephone call, maybe it will be a quick pick up to walk around the block. In any case, your child is possibly celebrating a holiday without one of the most important people in their life. It’s okay for them to want to share part of it with them.